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I joined my friend Jessica Beebe from Remembrancer Photography for a photo shoot today. We’re getting some photos ready for a new blog I’m developing. (I’ll keep you in the loop as launch day arrives.)
I posed and pretended to be America’s Next Top Model. We laughed and strutted down the hallway of our beautiful church building. As she shot moment after moment, I learned some things about connecting with people.
1. Lean in :
It physically shows your interest. You become engaging and open to the conversation or event before you.
2. Lean back:
It physically shows a lack of interest, an aloofness, even a superiority.
This caused me to wonder if the same holds true in one-on-one conversations. Sometimes, I sit back to listen to someone because I’m more comfortable. Do I seem aloof or uninterested? That’s not my wish.
With my children, I occasionally stand over them and dictate the days events. Granted, as a parent a certain amount of superiority helps move things along, but if I want them to know I’m really interested in what they say and what they think, will the simple act of leaning in convey my inner thoughts?
This will require investigation.
Have you noticed other types of body language cues that help you connect better with others?
My choice today:
Lean in to the conversations which really matter.
I’ve started to learn how to improve my photography because of a website called Digital Photography School. Each week I receive an email with a weekly photographic assignment. This week’s task involves perspectives.
Instead of taking pictures while standing upright, the task of the week includes searching for unusual angles on everyday things. On the website, many people submitted their beautiful photos and I felt inspired. My hunt began.
My oldest daughter takes these challenges with me. We motivate one another to think broadly and search for unusual photographic angles.
This approach to photos also applies to life.
Instead of staring into our problems head-on, what if we pause and attempt to think differently.
As parents, we tend to repeat the same patterns of discipline and reward on our children, even though the response we receive doesn’t match what we want. On the job hunt, many people have experienced rejection where once acceptance met them. In dating or marital relationships, taking an alternate approach could also prove helpful.
Adjusting our photographic lense involves sitting or standing or even lying down while looking at the same subject. In life, we do this by trying to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes. What would they tell us? We can even invite others into our story. What if we ask what they would do or what they see from their perspective? They could be helpful or not, but we’ll never know if we don’t ask.
Check out how my daughter and I approached photos of the same light from differing directions. The difference lies in our individual perspectives. Each holds its own beauty, but I wouldn’t be open her angle, if she weren’t invited to share.
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD. (Isaiah 55:8)
My choice today:
Re-aim the lense of my life, seek a new perspective.